About Graeme 

Psychology, Psychotherapy (Gestalt), counsellor, author and sexuality therapist, Graeme Sudholz specialises in working with couples, their relationships and sexuality. 

Graeme has been working in this area since 1999, when he started with Lifeline counselling. His approachable and still highly professional approach has supported him in working successfully with thousands of men, women and couples across Australia and overseas.

Graeme is direct and personable with a practical and down to earth approach that men can relate to and women feel safe with.

Men who are weary of psychology/psychotherapy/counselling that hasn’t worked, or who can’t be bothered with “touchy feely stuff” are validated by Graeme in a way that soon has them comfortable and smiling, and excited about getting the most out of their relationship.

The Long Road of Skill Development

Growing up on the family farm in rural Western Victoria, Graeme spent 30 years passionately working in farming, alongside his first wife and their three children.

After his divorce, Graeme wanted to understand his responsibility in his  relationship failing. It is from this desire that has fuelled his desire to train in and share this knowledge and experience with other people in a similar position.

Graeme’s  personal journey  has been a long and winding road, dealing with early physical, emotional and sexual abuse, battling depression, during an extensive career in business and people management, trade and agriculture.

After selling his farming business and moving into town, Graeme took over a small civil contracting business. He applied his skills and knowledge and transformed it over four years into a successful interstate business with 25 employees. Then along came the global financial crisis – kaboom! After a disastrous attempt to restructure, involving voluntary administration with a hostile administrator, he was forced to declare personal bankruptcy, pick pick up the pieces and start again. Personal bankruptcy also forced him to look at and resolve his extensive early childhood trauma.

All this adversity has combined in making him a thoroughly grounded and no nonsense business professional in his chosen field of relationships and sexuality.

This combination of real life background, experience and skill, along with working from inside his relationship with his life partner Annette in this field has created a powerful and subtle skill set, combining tertiary learning with real life experience. .

Back on Two Feet

Graeme now applies his psychology, psychotherapy, relationship counselling and sexual therapist communication skills comfortably to business people, shearers, mechanics and school teachers and accountants – we all need assistance sometimes.

Clients have been pleasantly surprised by his skill, empathy and understanding when working with them in their relationship desires.

His many years of business experience, coupled with extensive business management and agriculture qualifications also add a unique perspective for many self-employed clients struggling to achieve healthy work life balance and gain intimacy in their relationships.

Throughout this time Graeme has:

• learnt to open his heart to himself, to Annette and his children, and to those around him.
• learnt to embrace his healthy masculine sexuality 
• becoming increasingly passionate from surviving and thriving, feeling empowered and empowering others in healing their childhood wounds and connecting fully with who they really are.

Along with Annette, Graeme continues to explore the depths of his emotional and sexual self-understanding as he believes it is vital to walk his talk. This results in him having a clarity and depth that is essential for a man working in sexuality.

Qualifications and Skills

Graeme is qualified in psychology, psychotherapy, counselling services, including several years with  Lifeline, and is a qualified breathwork practitioner. 

His studies include tantra yoga, emotional intelligence, communication and relationship skills, breathwork, holistic psychotherapy, inner child and imago theory, with ongoing study with other teachers of tantra, including becoming a Certified Tantra Practitioner with the Source School of Tantra, Hawaii.

Changing Perspectives

These understandings and learnings have created a strong sense of compassion within Graeme to help men find their own new perspective, one that brings power, direction and meaning in to their life.

Graeme seeks to create and foster this different outlook in their approach to their sexuality, making it less about performance and more about expanding their pleasure through opening their heart and increasing their self-understanding.

Connecting with their own clear masculine sexuality and learning for themselves how to create, manage and own this is an essential part of being a man.

Their book that Graeme and Annette have co-authored, ‘Coming Together’ has bridged a gap for clients who are not quite ready for a face to face discussion but are comfortable reading in their private time and space.

For those who are ready now, contact Graeme or phone him on 0457966696 to start a conversation or make a booking and start making changes today.